15.” I knew after the first time I had sex with my wife. She said to go restart, because I know if you want to, and by this point, I was already in love with her, I was just happy she let me have her when really it was a big red flag. Our sex life depended on my financial capabilities. She was never really an enthusiastic partner in this, but did it to please me. The last straw was when she told me I was too small and needed to learn how to use it, and finally after 22 years (yes I was blinded with love) I started an affair to meet my needs and feel like a man again since she kept telling me she was ‘dead’ down there. From the start, I had made it clear that our physical relationship was paramount to me,” she said.
—Bill
16.” My partner of eight years could not face up to the fact that I was going to have difficulty getting pregnant. I still remember the pain of it. He was a great partner, my best friend, there’s no one I cared about more or loved more in this world but the fact that I realized I was going through this alone was a deal breaker at that point for me.”
“I couldn’t see him the same way after that, knowing he made me feel so lonely and empty in those first few weeks. He had no suggestions and no initiative to take the lead and allow me to process the news. I was in his face asking him to be who he is, spell out his thoughts on the situation for me, tell me what he wanted when I was trying to process what I wanted from all this and what I’d lost.
In those moments I realized I was better. If I were fucking this weight alone with somebody that I had put this much of my young adult life into, I may as well be alone til I find somebody who would load it up with me — who would even know what the hell they wanted to (so I could be the fucking gorilla I am and tell them if Ohiotown/Tennessee (and in the meantime without knowing, sure, theyre good humans lifes about living, but theyre good, we can agree there) is going to be a on the future goal of whatever family making, etc)
We remain friends, and I will probably always love him. But I think I would be happier doing this on my own or deserve somebody who can support me.”
17.” I was in this five-year relationship with this guy who was a psychological abuser. One year, my sister-in-law was having complications with her pregnancy, so my family decided to go to their house for Christmas, so she didn’t have to make the five hour trek to get to us. I told my boyfriend and he was like, ‘Well, you’re obviously not going.’ It turned out not seeing my family on Christmas was just the motivation I needed.”
18. “He never introduced me to his friends. He would actively avoid being seen with me by people he knew. I pretty quickly asked him what was his problem. His answer was that I needed to change my appearance because he didn’t want people seeing him date a weird goth chick. Dumped him right then and there.”
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